United We Stand

 Other kid’s parents.
  They are the bane of my existence and have been ever since I became a mother 19 years ago. They are the ones who said nothing to their child about pushing mine out of the way while he was waiting for his turn on the slide at the playground. They are the ones who let my 8 year old son play Grand Theft Auto. They are the ones who let their high schoolers stay out till four in the morning.
 And now they are the ones who don’t care if my 19 year old sits at their house and drinks half the night then drives home.
 Now, I understand that it’s my son doing the drinking. We have very strict rules about underage drinking in this house and he knows it. He is at fault for breaking our rules and has been punished accordingly. But perhaps if half of his friend’s parents didn’t facilitate the drinking by allowing it when they hang out at their house, and even occasionally BUYING it for them, my arguments to my son against it might seem more valid to him. As any parent who’s heard the phrase “Well, so-and-so’s parents don’t care” uttered to them can attest, it can be the most frustrating thing when another parent undermines a value you are trying to instill or disregards a rule made for your childs well being.
 In this case, these parents are actually breaking the law.

  We must be a united front in raising our children. Not all of our values will always be the same, but there are core rights and wrongs on which we must stand together. There are rules of law and rules of society on which we all must be firm and help each other guide our children down the right path. 

  I will help your child in any way I can. Please help me to help mine.

 

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2 thoughts on “United We Stand

  1. Remember that ad for the US Army…’the toughest job you’ll ever love”? When I was raising my kids I’d often mutter, “To heck with the Army, it’s PARENTING that’s the toughest job you’ll ever love!” It reminded me that I signed up for these challenges no matter what. (Didn’t mean I loved the challenges, though!) Persevere in your love, kat! Once past his adolescence, your son will thank you for holding the hard line. But that’ll be a while yet. Hang in there. 🙂

  2. Thanks, Eliza. I really needed your words of encouragement today. Sometimes I feel as if my ideals are a voice in the wilderness.
    Parenting really is the toughest job you’ll ever love. It would be nice if the job came with an occasional vacation though.lol

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